Book Review: BDSM – A Guide for Explorers of Extreme Eroticism

A famous bon mot of “America’s sexologist” Ruth Westheimer goes: “The most important sex organ lies between your ears.” This is also where BDSM originates: from the realization that the apex of eroticism doesn’t consist in blindly following your primal instincts of domination and submission, nor in the technical skills involved in handling whips, ropes…

Self Bondage – Fundoshi

The traditional Japanese fundoshi might not be commonly associated with self bondage, but we thought it fitted nicely with our series so we’ve uploaded a new PDF with step-by-step instructions in our free downloads area (or you can download it here). There are several types of fundoshi, including kuroneko, mokko and etchū. Ours is rokushaku-style,…

Self Bondage – Rope Harness Hog Tie

This is a more secure hog tie than the one we uploaded previously, and it works like a charm, but it does require a rope harness to secure it to. More things can go wrong with a hog tie than some other forms of self bondage, so please do read our safety tips before you…

Self Bondage – Rope Handcuffs with Lock

In a previous self-bondage how-to, we showed a quick rope handbind for attaching to a harness. It was very simple and not very secure. We’ve got a new PDF in our free downloads with step-by-step instructions for more secure cuffs. So secure, in fact, that you won’t get out of them without a key. You…

Self Bondage – Rope Hog Tie

We’ve created a PDF with step-by-step instructions for two different variations of a self bondage rope hog tie. It’s in our downloads in the sidebar, or download it here. Hog ties are more risky than our previous step-by-step rope harness tutorial, so please read Some Words Before You Start. It’s important. Believe me, you don’t…

Self Bondage – Quick Rope Hand Bind for Harness

We’ve created a PDF with a quick finishing touch to our self bondage Full Body Rope Harness to lock your wrists in place behind your back. It’s in our downloads in the sidebar, or download the step-by-step instructions here. You’ll need one rope, about 2 meters (6.5′) long. You’ll be able to get in and…

Self Bondage – Full Body Rope Harness

We’ve created a PDF with step-by-step instructions for a full body rope harness. It’s in our downloads in the sidebar, or download it here. You’ll need one rope, 8 or 9 meters (26′ to 30′) long. 6mm rope looks good on most people, but if you’re a bigger build, you might like the way 8mm…

Self Bondage – Some Words Before You Start

We’re going to run a series of articles on self bondage in the coming weeks, and before we do, I thought it would be wise to say a few words about risk and safety. I know, it’s not the sexiest of subjects, but please read on. This stuff is important, and even if you think…

Chastity – Sexy Games for Solo Players

Chastity can be serious business… except when it’s not. If you think denying yourself orgasm could be fun, then you’re not alone. Lots of guys are into chastity, and there are lots of ways to have fun with it. Let’s get the note of caution out of the way first. If you’ve got a brand…