This Week in Kink, January 20, 2018

According to New York Post, this year “Daddy” is the new MILF, and it has nothing to do with incest kink. In Parental Figures, Femdom Resource notes that while “Mommy” may be used in roleplays, it is seldom used in the same abstract way as “Daddy”, and wonders why that is? Kiiroo and OhMiBod offered…

You’re An Alpha Sub? What Do You Mean By That?

If you ask someone to identify themselves by role, there are all kinds of hybrid combinations you might hear in reply. One that’s sure to cause confusion is the Alpha sub, because there are several different ways to use the term, and at least one is contentious in the community. SOCIAL HIERARCHY The term “Alpha…

Calling Yourself an Alpha Dom Just Makes You Look Bad

You might think you are the most Domly Dom to ever have Dommed, but here’s a news flash: you’re not. Sorry, but with so many “Alphas” inhabiting the kink scene, not everyone can sit at the top of the BDSM food chain. There are certainly a few valid ways to use the term “Alpha”. It’s…

This Week in Kink, January 13, 2018

A couple of “Best of 2017” posts that are worth your time: The Camera Loves You! Best of CrashPad 2017, a Photo Journal has photographer Tristan C’s favourites of the year, and they are glorious (and definitely not safe for work). If you’re looking for an afternoon of great reading, try Suzy Hooker’s 2017 Best…

This Week in Kink, January 6, 2018

Shock, horror! It’s not all zip-up hoodies and Segways in tech startup culture. The story that seems to be everywhere this week is the drug-fueled sex parties of Silicon Valley, revealed in an extract from Bloomberg TV reporter Emily Chang’s about to be released book Brotopia: Breaking Up the Boys’ Club of Silicon Valley. Describing…

This Week in Kink, December 30, 2017

Tis the season for “year in review” posts, so let’s start off with one for gamers. Kotaku has their finger on the pulse of the gaming world, and they’ve just published a summary of their biggest sex stories of the year. Apparently this year there’s been a lot of it appearing (briefly) on Steam, a…

Illustrated Guide – Non-Monogamy

From casual sex and swinging to open relationships to polyamory to D/s play… there are a lot of ways to do non-monogamy. And then there are the “don’t ask, don’t tells”, the 100 mile rule, cucks and hot-wives, and many other variants. Franklin Veaux created a map of non-monogamy in 2010 that pops up in…

Quiz: How Kinky Are You?

A mindless multiple-choice quiz… just the thing if you’re still digesting too much turkey. Don’t expect too much from the results page of this one — mine said “Result: You’re More Than a Little Kinky”, which didn’t surprise me at all. But, I did surprise myself with the answers I gave to some of the…

This Week in Kink, December 23, 2017

Just hours before the original manuscript of the Marquis de Sade’s The 120 Days of Sodom was due to be sold at auction, France declared it a “national treasure”, meaning that it can no longer be exported from the country. Written on a 39-foot scroll smuggled into his Bastille prison cell in 1785, the Marquis…

Quiz: How Kinky is Your Ideal BDSM Room?

It’s the silly season, so no apologies for the lameness of this work-distraction. Festive planning would be so much easier if it was multiple-choice like this quiz. Choose the elements that make up your fantasy BDSM room and let Buzzfeed tell you where you rate on the naughty scale. Design Your Own BDSM Sex Room…